It’s quite simple when you think about the needs of men in a marriage. Without a formal poll, (that will be posted after this series for all who want to contribute an opinion) I have recently concluded that there are 5 or 6 things that most men really want in their partnerships with their lovely wives.

The first need is APPRECIATION.

It’s like “hello?” Is it really that tough to show a man, any man, some appreciation? I think this is a slam dunk. Let’s say the wife observes her spouse playing “gleefully” with the kids for a few hours on a given day. The husband is keeping the youngen’s occupied, allowing the wife to go out with her friends, or take some time to go for a peaceful walk.

At the end of the day, the man just wants to be shown some appreciation. A little thank you, or a well done, or god forbid, “good job hubby” would be appropriate. Muttering the words just takes a few seconds, and the guy would feel that his contribution was significant.

People don’t like being taking for granted. In situations like this, it would be super easy for the wife to just ignore it, thinking, “That’s what husbands are supposed to do!” or “I do stuff like this all the time!”

But that isn’t a good approach. Men who have played sports, have all had coaches who know how to boast their confidence with some appreciation. The occasional “attay boy” is essential to show that they are on the right track, enforcing that they do contribute. Try some positivity, some plus side, and see how far that goes for him.